Positive Parenting - 01

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Dec 6 Ajit Dembla: Dr. Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mahatma Gandhi and founder of the M.K. Gandhi Institute for Non-violence, in his June 9 lecture at the University of Puerto Rico, shared the following story as an example of "non-violence in parenting":

"I was 16 years old and living with my parents at the institute my grandfather had founded 18 miles outside of Durban, South Africa, in the middle of the sugar plantations. We were deep in the country and had no neighbors, so my two sisters and I would always look forward to going to town to visit friends or go to the movies.

One day, my father asked me to drive him to town for an all-day conference, and I jumped at the chance. Since I was going to town, my mother gave me a list of groceries she needed and, since I had all day in town, my father ask me to take care of several pending chores, such as getting the car serviced. When I dropped my father off that morning, he said, ' I will meet you here at 5:00 p.m., and we will go home together. '

After hurriedly completing my chores, I went straight to the nearest movie theatre. I got so engrossed in a John Wayne double-feature that I forgot the time. It was 5:30 before I remembered. By the time I ran to the garage and got the car and hurried to where my father was waiting for me, it was almost 6:00.

He anxiously asked me, ' Why were you late? 'I was so ashamed of telling him I was watching a John Wayne western movie that I said, ' The car wasn't ready, so I had to wait, not realizing that he had already called the garage. When he caught me in the lie, he said: ' There's something wrong in the way I brought you up that didn't' give you the confidence to tell me the truth. In order to figure out where I went wrong with you, I'm going to walk home 18 miles and think about it. '

So, dressed in his suit and dress shoes, he began to walk home in the dark on mostly unpaved, unlit roads. I couldn't leave him, so for five-and-a-half hours I drove behind him, watching my father go through this agony for a stupid lie that I uttered. I decided then and there that I was never going to lie again.

I often think about that episode and wonder, if he had punished me the way we punish our children, whether I would have learned a lesson at all. I don't think so. I would have suffered the punishment and gone on doing the same thing. But this single non-violent action was so powerful that it is still as if it happened yesterday.

That is the power of non-violence.

"Forgiveness is giving up my right to hate anyone for hurting me."

Gazal - 01

From Buzz:

jnikhare:
jab khuda ne ishq ko banaya hoga,
to khuda ne bhi use azmaya hoga.
Hamari toh aukat hi kya hain?
Iss ishq ne to khuda ko bhi kitna rulaya hoga.

Gayatri Gouda -
Hur dard ki dawa hoti hai,
har zakhm ka marham hota hai...
Ishq main aee sanam itne dard diye tune,
ki abb dawa se he pet bhar jata hai... wah wah...wah wah... ;)

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I too wanna be a TV

I too wanna be a TV

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Sep 24 Ajit Dembla: A kid wrote this essay.. Emotional..

'Oh God, tonight I ask you something very special :
Make me into a television. I want to take its place and live like the TV in my house.
Have my own special place, And have my family around ME.
To be taken seriously when I talk....

I want to be the center of attention and be heard without interruptions or questions.
I want to receive the same special care that the TV receives even when it is not working.
Have the company of my dad when he arrives home from work, even when he is tired.
And I want my mom to want me when she is sad and upset, instead of ignoring me...
And... I want my brothers to fight to be with me...
I want to feel that family just leaves everything aside, every now and then, just to spend some time with me.
And last but not least, ensure that I can make them all happy and entertain them...
Lord I don't ask you for much... I just want to live like a TV.'

Gazal - 00

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jnikhare: kya pata kab kaha, phir mulakat ho .... woh hasina se fir dil ki baat ho
Gayatri Gouda - gaal se haath ka milap na hoke, honthon se hontho ki mulakat ho...
Jayant Nikhare - thanks Gayatri. :)

Soichiro Honda

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Aug 31 Ajit Dembla: Accepting Challenges…

Soichiro Honda was born in Yamahigashi on November 17 1906. His father, Gihei Honda, was a local blacksmith. His mother, Mika, was a weaver. The family was not wealthy, but Gihei Honda instilled into his children the ethic of hard work, and a love of mechanical things. Honda spent his early childhood helping his father, a blacksmith, with his bicycle repair business. Soichiro soon learned how to whet the blades of farm machinery, and how to make his own toys.

Honda's subsequent spirit of adventure and determination to explore the development of new technology had its roots in his childhood.

In 1938, while still in school, Soichiro Honda took everything he owned and invested it in a little workshop where he started to develop his idea of a piston ring. He wanted to sell his idea to Toyota Corporation, but was turned down by Toyota. He had to go back to school for two years as a result of his failure. With sheer persistence, after the two years Toyota gave him the contract.

As the Japanese government was preparing for war, he was not given the concrete needed to build his factory. Because of this he created his own form of concrete and managed to construct his factory. Unfortunately, his factory was burned down twice and a major portion of it was destroyed. Then, a major earthquake destroyed his factory and he finally decided to sell off his piston ring factory to Toyota. After this, he tried a few other business ventures but did not have any success.

In 1947, after the war, there was a gasoline shortage in Japan. He could not use his car, so he thought of an idea to attach a small motor to his bicycle. His neighbours were impressed with his motorized bicycle, and asked him to make one for them. He finally ran out of motors, and decided to start a factory to build his own motors.

In order to raise funds for his factory, he wrote to 18,000 bicycle owners and received 5,000 replies to provide him with the necessary capital. When the motorized bicycles were manufactured, the sales were not as expected because the motorized bicycles were too big and bulky. Later, he came up with the idea to improve the motorized bicycle, and finally introduced to the world the "Honda Cub".

Today, Honda Corporation employs over 100,000 people in the USA and Japan, and is one of the world's largest automobile companies. Honda succeeded because one man made a truly committed decision, acted upon it, and made adjustments on a continuous basis. Failure was simply not considered a possibility.

~ Author Unknown

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"Diamonds are nothing more than chunks of coal that stuck to their jobs."
~ Malcolm Stevenson Forbes

Be Patient

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6:47 pm Ajit Dembla: BE PATIENT

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers of both the hands of the kid. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, "Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

I like myself

I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself... I like myself...

Are you wondering if I have gone crazy or have become mad?? Well, most of my friends thought so when they read my buzz.

Jayant, my friend, asked me, "Are you ok?".

Some anonymous people, whom I don't know personally commented like these:
> "It is as good as you practice 'Gayatri Mantra' or 'Vishnu Sahasra Nama'... ... :):):) It is only practicing and nothing else... Have nice day... :):)"
> "I like myself... So what? Go ahead with your self love..."
> "ohh goddamn..grt treatment 4 success employed by u..keep going and let me knw if u gt +ve results soon."

I replied with the following:
"I am perfectly fine and I not only like myself, I love myself... and FYI, this a success mantra from Brian Tracy and as per me Only if I like myself, then only I can like others. If I hate myself, I can never like anyone else."

Whatever I replied - did I reply anything wrong? Well, I don't think so... Only when your self-image is good, if your self-esteem is good, then only you can appreciate anyone else. Then only you can raise the self-esteem of others. Otherwise, you know the answer...

Whenever, you are nervous, you are low just chant this mantra, and you will see how you will lit up and would feel that self-confidence.

To know more listen to Brian Tracy's Self-Made Millionaire CD.

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