31st July with Rdheema

Recently I had been to D's best friend's home. They have a daughter named Rdheema. Don't be confused with the spelling, as I was. In her first b'day gift, we had written "Happy B'day to you Ridhima." Alas, we found later on the b'day banner, "Happy Birthday to Rdheema". May be numerology spells it that way. Anyway, that's the point that I want to make here.

I had a great time with her that day. I love children, thus I could not resist myself from spending maximum time with her than with her mother, P. Initially, she was silently sitting on the chair, staring at us, thinking where have I seen them. She was a bit hesitant, however, I guess she recollected that just before a week she has been with me for a couple of hours, and we were roaming on the calm and quite road of a newly built apartment. After a while she started showing some activity by showing her finger to the TV, trying to mumble something, making sort of cute sounds.

She then started to ask for the biscuits by showing her fingers. Now there were three types of biscuits. I gave her one, she didn't take it and still showed her finger to the plate. She was not at all taking the one I was giving her. Same happened with another one. Then came Aliva biscuits turn. And yes, the moment I took it near her hand she immediately took it and put it in her mouth. She repeated the process several times. The she was full. So she started to show her stuffs. Gradually she took us to all the rooms, she wasn't able to tell anything by words. But was telling by her gestures and by pointing to stuffs.

She started mixing with us very much. She started to laughing with me, playing with me, asking me to stick her small bear doll to the wardrobe, to the door. And then she is pull it out and throw it. She was behaving with me as if I was of her age. She was fighting with me too, getting annoyed for I was not sticking it where she wanted  me to. And was making all sort of noises, some blabbering. P came and asked her why is she getting angry. Then she became quite for sometime. P said, "She is thinking that you are of her age, as you are playing with her. So she is shouting." She continued shouting, laughing, smiling, raffling around. Oh!! I too didn't have that much of energy that she has.

She was looking too cute when she was laughing. When her father, B, was singing song to her she was moving head from left to right and right to left. She was enjoying her time. Till night 11 she was awake and was having fun. She has become a fan of the advertisement of Aliva and the biscuit too. She watches those ads. or the cartoon and has her food. Ah! it needs a lot of patience to deal with the kids, a lot of it.

Well, KIDS - their cute smile, adoring touch, lovable gestures, innocent talks - that's the purest thing available in the world. And I thank God, for blessing every human to go through that phase at least once. No wonder we tend to loose that innocence as we grow up. Can't do anything about that, since being adult and having the feeling of responsibility and becoming that ceiling for someone else, is a wonderful feeling too. After all if we have the same experience then that too would become routine and we would loose passion in it too.

I hope you had a wonderful time reading this article.

Keep smiling.

♥ ~ Smile

The scared women

Male - female ratio in India is 1000:880. I felt bad earlier for the number of female is less in India. However, these days I am feeling good for the number is less. Especially because the number is less in India. Reason - this is a completely male dominated society. A girl is brought up lavishly like a Queen, she gets married to a person of her cast, as per her family's choice. After marriage whatever suffering she goes through no one takes responsibility of that. Before marriage the parents eagerly search for proposals. Whoever is a bit good, having good property, they handover their daughter to them.

Then all of them, the husband, the in-laws, the parents expect the girl to do all sorts of work that she had not done in her so far life. They expect her to each and every work herself. Some families don't even allow cook and maid, just because they feel its a waste of money, when they have already got their Bahu (daughter-in-law). How far may be the house still they would stay in the same house they spend less money for. The women of today are becoming weaker and weaker in terms of their health. Mentally they are powerful for they are yet dealing with so many people in and out of family. Whatever may happen it's the womens' fault. She is blamed for everyone's mistake. Whoever, whatever she may be, but she is expected to do all house-hold and outside and office work. Her contribution to the new house is considered as something obvious. 

If she falls sick, it's her fault. If she has a miscarriage, it's all her fault. If she is getting cold and caugh problem frequently, the question would be asked, why are you getting cold so frequently? But no help would be provided to her, she has to get rid of it automatically. If she is not liked any more then she will be asked to give divorce or will be pushed off from a mountain. Now, the role of the parents is really wonderful hear. The father of the bride later would tell, you are a woman, so you have to compromise. That's what women has been doing since ages. As per him the bride groom is supposed to just enjoy a lavish life and the bride has to serve him. Not only the father, the mother too asks to compromise. They all say, "What to do? We are destined for this. We are female, born for kitchen and household work." What a wonderful parents. Pathetic is just a small word to describe them.

And about scolding what people don't realise is the story of Salmon Island is applicable in human life, adult or young it's applicable to all. In Salmon island when people want to clear some trees, they don't cut the tree. They all gather near the tree and curse and scold and take all their bad frustrations. After few days the tree becomes weak. And finally after few weeks it dies automatically. Such is the case with human. Are we really destined to tolerate, listen the scolding, discouragements just because we are women? I don't know the answer, thus, asking about it. 

I feel happy sometime for those dead girl babies who did not come to the world, to India, to be taken for granted. I feel sad for even if our country has developed to great extent, still we women are seen as powerless, weak and yes, we are made that even if we were powerful when we were young and teen. We are made to be scared of people and then we are told that you girls get scared easily outside home. Who has made us scared of? It is the parents, the siblings who constantly show their power on their youngsters. I have many friends who are younger to their brother and the brothers always who case their power, their control over their sisters. The female starts getting scared of the world then. She is scared of the family members and thus is scared of the society. How can she be independent then? Her thoughts are always controlled by the father, son, at times mother. She becomes so dependent on them that if they all, unfortunately die, the lady becomes helpless and becomes a prey for the vultures of the society.

We say we want to make the women strong. But that doesn't happen, for the base is so weak, how come the house will be strong? In my opinion, everything starts from the family. Be it emotions, strength, courage, business, communication, leadership, the power to invent and discover. For how many days a person would surf the internet or read the books continuously to get some motivation. It has to come from the family, and thus is the property that everyone carries forward from generation to generation. The way a father behave to the daughter or wife, the son will behave the same way to the females of the world. Cause that's what he has learnt from the so called first school of his life, the Home. If you make the female of your own house scared of you, believe me outside the house they are going to get scared of every single person. And you unintentionally make them victim of uninvited incidents, which they could have easily avoided if they were strong enough to think about the solution and not just get worried of the situation.

My job was to suggest you some ways... The rest is all in your hand. I hope you people are listening to me, rather us - women.

Mother!!

When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child. ~ Sophia Loren

Yes, when you are a mother, you think about you and your children. However, you also think about all other people of your family whom you love, about all your best friends whom you adore, your siblings, parents. Ah! a mother really thinks about many people in her family and outside world too.

Yes, she is sometimes too much occupied with her family life. This reminds me of my mother. When she visits any shop before she buys anything for herself, she first sorts out things for us, and only then she with her available budget buys something for herself. Even though she is home maker she would save some money from her monthly budget to get us beautiful clothes. She would sometime pamper us with, various flavored milk, chat, pani puri, samosa, dahi vade, vada sambar, sandesh, kaju katri.... yummy. I love those mouth watering food items. Every time she would go for shopping we would be waiting for her in our balcony for when will she come with some special snacks this time. And she too knew that we would be waiting for the lovely snacks she would bring. The food doesn't taste so much if we sit and have it in the restaurant. However, the love and affection with which she brings the food, brings that special flavor in those. I Love You Mommy ♥.

♥ ~ Smile