Positive Parenting - 01

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Dec 6 Ajit Dembla: Dr. Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mahatma Gandhi and founder of the M.K. Gandhi Institute for Non-violence, in his June 9 lecture at the University of Puerto Rico, shared the following story as an example of "non-violence in parenting":

"I was 16 years old and living with my parents at the institute my grandfather had founded 18 miles outside of Durban, South Africa, in the middle of the sugar plantations. We were deep in the country and had no neighbors, so my two sisters and I would always look forward to going to town to visit friends or go to the movies.

One day, my father asked me to drive him to town for an all-day conference, and I jumped at the chance. Since I was going to town, my mother gave me a list of groceries she needed and, since I had all day in town, my father ask me to take care of several pending chores, such as getting the car serviced. When I dropped my father off that morning, he said, ' I will meet you here at 5:00 p.m., and we will go home together. '

After hurriedly completing my chores, I went straight to the nearest movie theatre. I got so engrossed in a John Wayne double-feature that I forgot the time. It was 5:30 before I remembered. By the time I ran to the garage and got the car and hurried to where my father was waiting for me, it was almost 6:00.

He anxiously asked me, ' Why were you late? 'I was so ashamed of telling him I was watching a John Wayne western movie that I said, ' The car wasn't ready, so I had to wait, not realizing that he had already called the garage. When he caught me in the lie, he said: ' There's something wrong in the way I brought you up that didn't' give you the confidence to tell me the truth. In order to figure out where I went wrong with you, I'm going to walk home 18 miles and think about it. '

So, dressed in his suit and dress shoes, he began to walk home in the dark on mostly unpaved, unlit roads. I couldn't leave him, so for five-and-a-half hours I drove behind him, watching my father go through this agony for a stupid lie that I uttered. I decided then and there that I was never going to lie again.

I often think about that episode and wonder, if he had punished me the way we punish our children, whether I would have learned a lesson at all. I don't think so. I would have suffered the punishment and gone on doing the same thing. But this single non-violent action was so powerful that it is still as if it happened yesterday.

That is the power of non-violence.

"Forgiveness is giving up my right to hate anyone for hurting me."

Getting drenched with Guzaarish

Recently I watched "Guzaarish" with my best friend C. We already had a sad time in the morning. So I wanted to do something that would refresh her mood. However, I didn't know I am going to drown her with tears.

It is another movie with sad ending. However is a masterpiece of Bhansali's. I give it full 5/5.

Even though we were crying like babies, but I liked each and every part of the movie except where Ethen says his Guzaarish is to die. I feel like disclosing the entire story, however, there won't be any excitement if already know the story. I didn't know anything about the movie except that Aishwarya-Hrithik pair is again coming back in the movie. And the songs. And that had raised the level of curiosity to know what next and an expectation for happy ending. Throughout the movie I was requesting God please make some changes in this real of the movie and make it happy ending for me.

But the ending is surprising. And it has kept me mesmerised even after 3 days are passed now.

I like everyone's acting in there... starting from the Hrithik to Aish to the lawyers, the judge, the caretaker(s), the new boy, the father, the mother, the doc, the assistant, the rude guy, the best friend... everyone...

Limited characters, but excellent performance.

After a Khamoshi this is the movie that I liked from Sanjay Leela Bhansali's treasure box... I am just waiting for the DVD to come...

I like this dream of Bhansali and I like the way he has brought every pieces of his dream, every word, every sentence of the script to life. And the Songs... ah... they are being rewinded and played again and again in my mind. Awesome lyrics... I can't explain how powerful the meaning is of each and every song.

Thodi si meethi hai

Zara si mirchi hai

      Sau gram zindagi yeh

      Sambhal ke kharchi hai ...

Udi neendein aankhon se
     Judi raatein khwabo se
           Mudi ke jaane mein kahan? ...

Oh!! I am love with each second of this movie and becoming impatience to wait for the DVD to come. If possible I might again go and watch the movie. However, this time with someone else, since C has already left B'lore and is in Chennai now.

I am already drenched with the rain of this movie... the lighting, the colors, the smell of the greenary is still fresh in me... Hope you too could see the movie through the director's eyes and enjoy each every scene of it.

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