Love is a temporary insanity curable by Marriage?

I recently attended the charter ceremony of Sound Bites Toastmasters club. We came across a table topic there "Love is a temporary insanity curable by marriage". The participants gave very nice and powerful thoughts on this topic. Some went for, some against, some were diplomatic and said it doesn't matter if its love or marriage.

The thoughts forced me to think over and over on finding the difference between Love and Marriage. Is there really any difference? If yes, then which is powerful amongst these two?

Through out the way to my home I was in my thoughts about these two powerful terms. I tried to find out the meaning of Love for me, in my life, in my soul. I could not find much difference. However, could find a deep correlation between these two.

A farmer loves his land, his crop. A mother loves her child. A child loves its toys. The bees love the flowers. We human love the aroma of the sweet nature. Peacock loves the black clouds. The trees love the sun. The lovers love each other.

We all have this deep necessity to love and be loved. It’s a way of expressing your care and affection. It’s a feeling that provides you power. Power to achieve, power to sacrifice, power to fight, power to cry, power to serve, power to expect, power to reach greater heights, power to understand, power to be understood, power to know each other, power to take a step ahead to know the unknown, power to discover.

Water boils at 211degree. Just an extra degree, i.e. 212 degree and it generates steam. This steam has the power to move the giant iron devil - the train. Love serves as that catalyst to bring that extra degree in yourself to run your mind and soul to achieve your heart's true desire. It gives you that courage to display your true and honest feelings for your love and loved ones.

You learn what sacrifice is only if you are in love with someone. That someone can be your best friend, your brother, your sister, your father, your mother, your colleague, your relatives, the orphans, and the old elder people. If you truly love someone then only you can sacrifice. Otherwise the ugly fungus called Selfishness will rule over you. And you lose even humanity in due course.

To build a good and strong house you need to build the foundation very strong. Only when the foundation is strong you can build the house without much trouble and struggle. Otherwise there would be hustle and bustle every now and then. Love is that foundation for any good relationship. Marriage is a bond between two committed people or thing to server each other with love. Love is the foundation, Love is floor, Love is the walls and Love is ceiling.

Marriage doesn't necessarily mean that two people follow the rituals and say we are committed. The commitment should come from within. Only when the farmer is committed to his harvesting field, he can get a good crop. That commitment can't be attained by force. You feel like committing, you may get married. However, that's not a necessity. You can still be in love and love each other and serve each other without selfishness. Rather marriage sometime sounds like selfishness. If there is even a minor glitch then you much get out of that commitment, cause that would not last. You must reinvent that relationship from a fresh perspective.

Now Love being insanity, is not something that my mind can crumble just like that. However, if I think about the rainbow then Michelle Sedas has said, its only when you welcome the rain then you can see your rainbow. So, why not have this insanity. It brings so much power, so much happiness. It showers you with so many attributes to live your life with. I can crumble the insanity part. But ‘temporary’; its no was temporary. I already spoke about that. It is the foundation, the floor, the walls, the ceiling. Without Love marriage won’t go a long way.

Marriage is like a vehicle and the wheels are made of Love, Love, Love and Love. Love for everyone related to that marriage. If the pressure in any one wheel is less, then the balance goes off. And you may ultimately drift to an accident; to avoid that you have to refill the Pressure from time to time. Again how come without petrol a vehicle would go. Yes, that petrol is trust and that trust again comes with the companions of Love, i.e. Care, Affection, Sacrifice, Understanding, Ownership etc.

Love can lead to a marriage. Marriage needs Love. Marriage is not something to cure Love; it is to grow Love. Love needs only Love to cure it.

That’s my definition of Love. What’s yours?

Catch you in the next blog...
♥ ~ Smile