Fake Friends

Words have the power to make or break someone. Yet, often people casually taunt others, criticise others without realising whether the person at whom it's directed will get disheartened by it or not. Everyone has their own story. Just because you are in a superior position, than the other person, doesn't give you the right to taunt, or criticise them. 

Recently, I faced some situation like this where a person casually started comparing with another person, then taunted me on another occasion. Usually, I take the jokes lightly. This time too I took the comparison lightly. But, it continued and I couldn't take it any more and left the place. 

Another instance where another person started blaming me for not being informed by the instructor or the other fellow members. 

Bloody hell, am I a dustbin where everyone puts their complaint garbage or am I "Mandir ka Ghanta" / "Temple's Bell" whom everyone comes and beats.

I regret listening to the elders and changing myself from a straightforward person to someone who always thinks "whether I should upfront or not", "what if the other person is hurt by my words", "I should be more understanding of that person", "the other person is frustrated, so let me just listen to them so that their anger subsides". I wish I was the same old "Muhn phat". Alas, the change is permanent now. 

Yet, I heard in one video where the student was asking the Guru, "How much chance should we give to the other person who is hurting me?" And the guru said, "How much poison will you take before you die?"

Well, I think I have tolerated enough, I have forgiven enough. Now, I don't want to be in an environment where I'm constantly taken advantage of, or criticised for nothing and compared with others. 

Also, I quit the gossip groups because it is said, "The moment  you are out of the gossipping group, the next gossip topic will be you."

So, this time the lesson I got is - the new people who become your friends can't be your true friend. They will look for their selfishness. Won't even bother to know if they hurt you someway. Fake Friends.

~Smile

What was I doing being away from Blogger?

Wow! I haven't written a single word in my blog for past 2 years. Can't believe that 2 years have gone by. And this now forces me to think, to look back and really ponder about what have I been doing for past 2 years.

Well, writing posts I had left long back. However, not posting a single blog... Hmm... It was eventful 2 years of my life. There were disturbing parts which I would not want me or you to ponder over. And there were so many wonderful parts that I would love to recall again and again. 

And today I don't know why but I just felt like jotting down my thoughts like I used to before. 

Well, in these past 2 years 

1. I learnt yoga practices though for a short period of time,  
2. attended Bhagvat Geeta level 1 course, 
3. did my inner engineering program, 
4. got a back injury by an excited happy little one while playing with him, 
5. learnt keyboard from my 8 year old son, 
6. explored the ways of repairing the house (which includes, scrubbing - oiling - painting of iron grills, fixing hairline cracks, grouting of floors, putty work of walls), 
7. explored about painting of walls in a structured manner, 
8. painted designs in the walls (recently I applied so much of what I learnt in my parent's house, repaired my mom's kitchen and guest bedroom, re-organised everything, repaired the walls and painted the rooms from roof to sides, and painted designs in the room - it looks fabulous), 

Dr. Sunder Narasimhan - Best Vascular Surgeon in Bangalore

Dr. Sunder Narasimhan - Senior Vascular and Endovascular Surgeon at Apollo Bannerghatta Hospital. 

Whenever I think of him 2 thoughts come to my mind immediately - 1) God, 2) "Welcome the Rain (and along with it the Thunder) for only when it rains that one can see the Rainbow".

Why God? For he saved my husband's leg from getting amputated when we had got no hope from the other doctor to whom we ran up to for 2 days.

Why Rain and Thunder and Rainbow? For he would not excuse you for being careless and irresponsible. He would then scold you like you are his own family member.

An expert in his area of medical science and does surgeries to his heart's fullest, with dedication and passion. A genuine person, a genuine Doctor who doesn't pretend to be nice and give you false hope to loot all your money. I have seen many money oriented doctor, and have also seen some true doctor who help you recover from your ill-health - Dr. Sunder Narasimhan is one such doctor who's serving patients and helping them out of their pain with his expertise in extraordinary ways. A very passionate doctor who takes his profession very seriously.

And whoever feels he is rude, feel yourself lucky for only if he is really concerned about your problem and he feels the seriousness of the problem, he would show you that side of him too. He is one Doctor who puts extra efforts to help you. And still if you have any problem with the way he speaks then I can't help you. It's how you take it... can't help with that. It always depends on you how you take anything or anyone.

I am forever indebted to him for when other doctors said amputation of leg is the only option left, he's the one who saved not only my husband's leg but our lives. He's God to me! He has magic in his hands. May the Supreme Lord keep showering thy blessing and love, me Lord be with him and keep him prospering! And honestly, I don't care how he talks. 

Thank you, Dr. Sunder Narasimhan sir!! We are forever indebted to you, Sir!

P. S. His blog www.drsundervascularsurgeon.com

~ Gāyatri Gouda  

Practo - an awesome app

#Practo - an awesome app, which is helping so many in my surroundings at least. I am so grateful to this app for I was loosing all hope from the current bad situation and it helped me reach the right doctor in emergency situation.

I am so grateful to my friend Ratna who has been talking about the app every now and then.

It came as a beacon of hope in times of emergency. My husband was about to loose his foot, and this app helped me reach the doctor in his clinic, a day before the appointment with him in hospital. And he had his bypass surgery of leg done in emergency and is fine today.

Thank you, developer, who created this app.

Try, try, try... No matter how far you have to go

When some doctor tells you that, "Sorry but there's nothing that can be done at the moment. Sorry, it's already gone. I can't help you now. We have to amputate.", he actually means that he doesn't have the expertise to help you out. So, in that situation rather than loosing your hope, go visit other doctors.

One doctor denies that doesn't mean it's the end of world. Don't believe a negative comment unless you have tried all your options. Try, try, try... Unless you loose all your options. Search for the best surgeons and visit them no matter how far you stay.

Beware of doctors who tell you that it's the end of the world for you.

Who is mental?

I saw a person in hospital yesterday who was talking to himself with expression. There were other people with me who saw him too and said his mental state is disturbed or may be he is mental. He was talking to himself, just the way we talk to our near and dear. Who better near and dear one would have other than himself / herself.

After that discussion was over, I was sitting in the cafeteria and wondering about my husband who has undergone a surgery few days back, and then I noticed that I too talk to myself, about my worries, about what happened, what could have prevented and all the things that went wrong which led to the surgery. My talking was limited to my thoughts and an occasional silent / not much noticeable nodding of the head. Then I wondered that the guy who was talking to himself may or may not be a mental. If he is then all we people are a little 'mental' at some point. Some find themselves alone during the bad times and react differently.

One should always have company in hospital otherwise you never know when the attendant will also become a mental patient. There should be someone with whom the attendant could share the feelings. Keeping the feelings inside is a very bad thing.

To complete the article - who is mental? - I would say we all are at some point.