Fake Friends

Words have the power to make or break someone. Yet, often people casually taunt others, criticise others without realising whether the person at whom it's directed will get disheartened by it or not. Everyone has their own story. Just because you are in a superior position, than the other person, doesn't give you the right to taunt, or criticise them. 

Recently, I faced some situation like this where a person casually started comparing with another person, then taunted me on another occasion. Usually, I take the jokes lightly. This time too I took the comparison lightly. But, it continued and I couldn't take it any more and left the place. 

Another instance where another person started blaming me for not being informed by the instructor or the other fellow members. 

Bloody hell, am I a dustbin where everyone puts their complaint garbage or am I "Mandir ka Ghanta" / "Temple's Bell" whom everyone comes and beats.

I regret listening to the elders and changing myself from a straightforward person to someone who always thinks "whether I should upfront or not", "what if the other person is hurt by my words", "I should be more understanding of that person", "the other person is frustrated, so let me just listen to them so that their anger subsides". I wish I was the same old "Muhn phat". Alas, the change is permanent now. 

Yet, I heard in one video where the student was asking the Guru, "How much chance should we give to the other person who is hurting me?" And the guru said, "How much poison will you take before you die?"

Well, I think I have tolerated enough, I have forgiven enough. Now, I don't want to be in an environment where I'm constantly taken advantage of, or criticised for nothing and compared with others. 

Also, I quit the gossip groups because it is said, "The moment  you are out of the gossipping group, the next gossip topic will be you."

So, this time the lesson I got is - the new people who become your friends can't be your true friend. They will look for their selfishness. Won't even bother to know if they hurt you someway. Fake Friends.

~Smile