I was observing people yesterday sitting in the Red Bus, since that's where you can see clearly who is doing what, from my bike - Ferrari Red Honda Deo ;).
Something has been ringing a kind of beep in my head every time I see the bus and the people inside. Every time I travel in those buses too my mind wanders around to figure out why am I getting absent minded. Yesterday that puzzle was finally resolved. It's the people and their behaviour that was ringing that bell in my mind.
Every time you see at the bus you will hardly find anyone talking to each other. Even if you see a couple they too would not be talking much. All they would be doing is sit quite, holding the hands of each other, sometime keeping their head on the shoulders of the partners. I could hardly see anyone speaking. And that was kind of suffocating me every time I travel in the bus.
But yeah, you would find some people talk at times, and those are the fresh college graduates, enjoying their freshers feeling, enjoying their days just after college and entering in to the corporate life, being unaware of the days that are still yet to come. They would be shouting, making all kind of sounds, laughing. That makes me feel amazed at times. However, immediately the coming times of their life's reflections pass by fast enough in my thoughts. So, I just give a smile and turn back to my book. Oh yeah! my books are the best companion of me, unless there is someone who is interested in having a chat.
Well, the fresh grads are the only chirping birds of this jungle. There are some old birds too, ah.. I mean the people at their old age. I kinda like them. You know why, they would talk to you, if you show a little interest. Of course, if there would have been 3-4 old people sitting, they would talk for sure from their side to each other. And that remind me of my Dad and his friends. He would talk to anyone, be it old person of his age, or young to him. He would always make a conversation and people kinda like him for that. And so, even there are few friends of dad who don't like themselves, still they would talk everything on the earth with my Dad.
Now, this is just not the case with my Dad, I have seen many old age people, who are of our Daddy/Mommy's age, love have a conversation with anyone. They were interested in building relationship. My Mommy would talk to any lady, she may show interest initially or not, but Mommy would talk with a bright smile and true heart.
When I was in Mumbai, I was so surprised to see that the aunts who don't talk to each other they speak with Mom, they invite her to have snacks, to go shopping, to visit temples, to have tea, to go for an evening walk. And that was so amazing to see. I can't explain how much surprised I was when I found so many friends of her in just a weeks time. And you know what when I needed help and I had no relatives around these people themselves came to help me and my Mom. My mother was sick and I used to take care every need of her, from preparing food to bring medicines to visit blood bank to relax myself from not having my loved ones around me. But as soon as they knew about it, they all came to help me. Some came to stay near my Mom when I am not around, some prepared food, some brought fruits. That was an amazing experience I can never ever forget in my life. Even after we left Mumbai they were in contact with us.
This is the power of Socialising. However, this generation people, we hardly make any new relationship. There are people who socialise just the way our parents used to do, but that percentage would be hardly 20-30%.
Everyone in the bus sit quite, looking outside the window. However, I don't understand what they must be thinking or cherishing when they look at those people they can't talk from inside the bus. And why don't they talk to people who are inside the bus.
The only way socialising now a days is Internet, and all the websites. You know what I too feel about myself that I am not so expressive upfront than I am here in the writings. However, I am working more and more to improve my socialising skills with people who I see in my place. I hope you too are doing the same.
I strongly feel we need to become like our parents, since they have that skill to socialise with anyone, anywhere, any time. And they get the help when they need much faster and it's bigger form.
Every time I go down mentally, I try to recollect the statement from Bollywood actress Shilpa Setty, "Smile is the only thing for which you don't have to pay any tax, and thus, I always keep smiling."
I think that's gonna help me a lot in socialising more with the lovely people around me. And I hope this would help you do so, too. :)
♥ ~ Smile
