The scared women

Male - female ratio in India is 1000:880. I felt bad earlier for the number of female is less in India. However, these days I am feeling good for the number is less. Especially because the number is less in India. Reason - this is a completely male dominated society. A girl is brought up lavishly like a Queen, she gets married to a person of her cast, as per her family's choice. After marriage whatever suffering she goes through no one takes responsibility of that. Before marriage the parents eagerly search for proposals. Whoever is a bit good, having good property, they handover their daughter to them.

Then all of them, the husband, the in-laws, the parents expect the girl to do all sorts of work that she had not done in her so far life. They expect her to each and every work herself. Some families don't even allow cook and maid, just because they feel its a waste of money, when they have already got their Bahu (daughter-in-law). How far may be the house still they would stay in the same house they spend less money for. The women of today are becoming weaker and weaker in terms of their health. Mentally they are powerful for they are yet dealing with so many people in and out of family. Whatever may happen it's the womens' fault. She is blamed for everyone's mistake. Whoever, whatever she may be, but she is expected to do all house-hold and outside and office work. Her contribution to the new house is considered as something obvious. 

If she falls sick, it's her fault. If she has a miscarriage, it's all her fault. If she is getting cold and caugh problem frequently, the question would be asked, why are you getting cold so frequently? But no help would be provided to her, she has to get rid of it automatically. If she is not liked any more then she will be asked to give divorce or will be pushed off from a mountain. Now, the role of the parents is really wonderful hear. The father of the bride later would tell, you are a woman, so you have to compromise. That's what women has been doing since ages. As per him the bride groom is supposed to just enjoy a lavish life and the bride has to serve him. Not only the father, the mother too asks to compromise. They all say, "What to do? We are destined for this. We are female, born for kitchen and household work." What a wonderful parents. Pathetic is just a small word to describe them.

And about scolding what people don't realise is the story of Salmon Island is applicable in human life, adult or young it's applicable to all. In Salmon island when people want to clear some trees, they don't cut the tree. They all gather near the tree and curse and scold and take all their bad frustrations. After few days the tree becomes weak. And finally after few weeks it dies automatically. Such is the case with human. Are we really destined to tolerate, listen the scolding, discouragements just because we are women? I don't know the answer, thus, asking about it. 

I feel happy sometime for those dead girl babies who did not come to the world, to India, to be taken for granted. I feel sad for even if our country has developed to great extent, still we women are seen as powerless, weak and yes, we are made that even if we were powerful when we were young and teen. We are made to be scared of people and then we are told that you girls get scared easily outside home. Who has made us scared of? It is the parents, the siblings who constantly show their power on their youngsters. I have many friends who are younger to their brother and the brothers always who case their power, their control over their sisters. The female starts getting scared of the world then. She is scared of the family members and thus is scared of the society. How can she be independent then? Her thoughts are always controlled by the father, son, at times mother. She becomes so dependent on them that if they all, unfortunately die, the lady becomes helpless and becomes a prey for the vultures of the society.

We say we want to make the women strong. But that doesn't happen, for the base is so weak, how come the house will be strong? In my opinion, everything starts from the family. Be it emotions, strength, courage, business, communication, leadership, the power to invent and discover. For how many days a person would surf the internet or read the books continuously to get some motivation. It has to come from the family, and thus is the property that everyone carries forward from generation to generation. The way a father behave to the daughter or wife, the son will behave the same way to the females of the world. Cause that's what he has learnt from the so called first school of his life, the Home. If you make the female of your own house scared of you, believe me outside the house they are going to get scared of every single person. And you unintentionally make them victim of uninvited incidents, which they could have easily avoided if they were strong enough to think about the solution and not just get worried of the situation.

My job was to suggest you some ways... The rest is all in your hand. I hope you people are listening to me, rather us - women.